Positive thinking is not about EXPECTING the best to happen every time, but ACCEPTING that what ever happens is the best for the moment. ******************
Positive thinking means right thinking at every moment, visualising the best to happen, but then accepting the result and creating the right thoughts irrespective of what the outcome may be. Positive thinking does not mean what will happen, will be the best; it means whatever will happen, will be Accurate for me; according to my SANSKARS and past KARMIC Accounts. ******************* Accepting the outcome of the situation keeps us stable at that moment. We retain the strength, confidence and motivation to put in our best in the next moment!
BREAKING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS: To identify positive and negative requires breaking deep habit patterns and you need strong self awareness and willpower and much practice so here is a tip: "S.O.S" – STOP: Stand back -Observe -Steer means withdraw as "detached observer" then "evaluate quality of thought" which makes you feel good and then Steer and channel that energy as inspiring and useful which then brings benefit to you and others!
Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed.
Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.
When the other person is right according to their perspective and we feel they are wrong, the "conflict has begun". Two souls are different, not right not wrong. Each is always right from their perspective.
Empathy means to detach from your own perspective and see the situation from the perspective of the other person. This creates understanding and compassion
VAULT OF SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE
The vault of spiritual knowledge holds many treasures to enable us to live and act with truth. We can all try to reform our character and activities. If we have clear, clean and positive thoughts and feelings -words and actions are the keys which unlock the gates of happiness -they are the foundation of self progress and personal transformation bringing strength and contentment to the self and pleasure to others
"I would rather grow in love than shrink in responses"
Article attempts to explore some deep thoughts.
We need to let our soul within us to "grow in love in spite of responses" it gets from all sources external and internal so that it is "unaffected, independent and not become weak".
Look at this For example: Despite what people think of me or respond to me on any aspect of my life, I know myself better and the qualities & values I possess therefore I will not be affected or depend on other people's reactions. If I depend on other peoples reactions or looking for "appreciation" all the time or their "approval or acceptance", I am making my soul weaker and not let it grow independently. My dependence means that I am swayed by their responses.
We need to recognise that our "soul is beautiful" which is born under a "different costume" and it has an "original purity" within which is clouded all the time by automated responses from people or circumstances and environment and thus it is hidden away as a treasure. It is difficult and challenging to remember and one way is to remember the opening line and to try applying it daily situations you encounter.
Sometimes, we make a mistake and think that I will wait and put this right in the evening but then you do not know that sub-consciously you may have made 10 mistakes by then. The mind is so dynamic and interactive and is not aware and if our mind stopped for a minute to think when this mistake happened and correct it - the positive thought and positive response would begin to emnate from the body and mind because it became so aware and alert and chances are it was less likely to entrap itself because of your thinking being so powerful.
Any stimulus from environment will affect the mind positive or negative and by practicing only can you gradually get wisdom and make mind more aware of creating the right positive and correct response. This is evident in our vocabulary also daily as to how we speak and use language which is subtle and the words can hurt sometimes because hurt comes in different ways and is not visible to all. Two people can send different quality of words to same person but that does not mean the other person is able to understand or appreciate your communication if the tone and words of your voice used is not subtle or gentle and meaningful to them. (S.O.S)
Today, our environment has become extremely difficult with so many negative vibrations and people getting more selfish. We are in Kalug age which means there is going to be hypocrisy And evil all around us. We need to take care and shield ourselves from all this negativity and find mechanisms that steer us in right direction and first step is what lies within us - our sub-consciousness to awaken that.
We have 4 Sanskars
- Sanskar born with past Karma
- Sanskar attained from immediate family
- Sanskar attained from the environment e.g friends/ social circle, work etc
- Sanskar by will power which is the master of all three and the original Sanskar hidden by all three above like a book. This sanskar is original pure one which is forgotten and perhaps only a Saint or Spiritual guru is able to experience all four
Under every different costume, even a child in front of you, the belief system may be variable but the original soul is the same under different form come with divine spirit and All it needs is to get back on track in the present life it is given to use the opportunity to improve the Sanskar for this will be carried forward next time under different costume.
A weak soul therefore will not be able to grow in love because it is getting dependent on responses from people or circumstances thrown at it and gradually radiates different types of energy from within as feelings emnate and sometimes this will be negative form too and shrink itself.
Do Sanskars change? If they are our karmic account then NO, they never change! For they are all carried forward. The only change is our "LENS" we are wearing which permits us to see and do what we want and create thoughts and perceptions in our mind.
This can be demonstrated by few examples. All of us actually carry images in our brain about people we are close to and the more we get to know them (friends, family or colleagues) we create a "certain imprint" in our mind about how we perceive them and our mind gets attached to these images. For example, sometimes we move away from a relationship as the right choice to make when things do not work out. It may be a move away from a Job, house, friends and indeed your spouse. Although this may not be a good option but when hurt is created sometimes it is the best option at that time. The Sanskar does not change –you are what you are, but in this case it gives time to change your Sanskar so in its next interaction situation may be different and a positive one. We must never blame for situations but the "Lens" we are seeing through and it is the way we see things which need changing. When one cannot attain peace, love and happiness then it is more comfortable for the soul to move away and re-group and not weaken. It can be said we are like a "Porcupine" and we create some of the spikes in us and hurt easily. No one is perfect and people have to try and accept each other as each perception is different and accept any differences to see the bigger picture.
It can be said that "hurt is actually created by you only". Because you allowed yourself to be hurt by the response you got. In next article we will cover this concept of why we create this pain of: "HURT"/TRUST" AND "INTEGRITY" "TRUST" – GOING BEYOND DOUBT"…
Perhaps we can ask ourselves "Why am I getting Hurt"? Because I am attached to an image we created and when that does not match to our thoughts, hurt often occurs. For example, an elder person very traditional in values expects the daughter in law to touch feet every morning but when that image does not match –hurt is created. Or our children go out without asking us and we carry an image that they did not ask permission. It is like are you asking me or informing me? –again hurt is created. Perhaps the Lens could change. If the daughter in law greeted the elder mother in law with good morning, then the correct response would be to say "How sweet" I was wished good morning! OR the son or daughter going out to tell the parents and the correct response would be –great thanks for telling me! So moral of this is that when we create an image of people we know so well and get used to, we attach to this image and assume that the other person thinks the same but is not the case as we all wear different lens.
Also note in above cases, Parents would never want bad things for their children but are critical in words used. The children then mis-interpret the words said as hurt but intention was not there. Today in Kalyug, words are easily said under duress and modern life when these very words mean nothing. What people probably crave for but are not getting is a "good listener" and to get to know the other person well to then understand equations but problem as always no one has time and pretend to themselves they are busy doing this or that. The silence of the mind is sometimes also necessary when there are too many vibrations external to the body and most of them tend to be negative.
Another example we come across many times we say automatically. "Life is complicated or people are complicated" Infact it not the case but the Lens we are wearing has got dirty and need cleaning. Therefore each day what is useful rather than watch TV to kill needless hours or go on Face book and spend endless hours on it which is an activity of "Prajalpa", one could use some part of this wasteful energy effectively. Therefore what we need is spend say few minutes in morning on day ahead as to how you will make it positive one and end of day another few minutes to reflect back and then perhaps at least 45 minutes (an hour a day as suits) to try attempt to be "in a washing machine" and "cleanse our self" by practicing, reading meditating or perform raja yoga or chant maha mantra whatever suits and only then will mind and Soul get stronger day by day and slowly you will notice the difference in you. If we can try and create the Lens that is clean then things can become simple enough by trying to use Sanskar no 4. If you give what you want then what you get back is what you give! If you give love, then what you get back is also love. Love is a beautiful word in many forms and radiates a very powerful positive vibration
The equation to balance here is to understand that this is Sanskar and what needs changing is the lens of people.