| Searching for a life
partner online is very much like hunting for a job that
best suits you. You are pitching yourself as a person
to another who could share your tastes and interests or
is your exact opposite and hence believes you are made
for each other!
How you communicate is very important with regards
to your online interactions and it starts with several
First, those of you are reading this -have you logged
on to MILMATCHMAKER.COM or
WWW.PERFECT-PARTNER.COM and registered your profile?
If you have not done so, then this article may not
be so relevant to you. The Perfect-Partner.com P.I.M.S
service is an internal messaging system integrated
with e-matching technology so after your profile is
registered online, you get the capability to send
and receive electronic confidential messages to your
email-id as well as potential e-matches all at your
fingertips wherever you are!
So now that you have registered online and are seriously
looking to net your partner, here are some tips on
getting the most out of choosing your partner online:
- When you register your profile, it is very important
that you fill in the column that asks for a brief
description of yourself. Give a brief but interesting
sketch that steers clear off mundane details. Bring
life to your words and describe yourself in a way
that throws insights into your personality.
- Insert your photo to give that visual impression.
These days it is very common practice online and
believe it or not, the first thing potential lookers
will do is browse photos! So do not be shy and improve
- Try and then search profiles and initiate that
first contact rather than waiting and hoping someone
will stop by now you are online and the partner
will fall in your lap! It does not work that way.
If you are serious enough to register your profile
then also take the initiative to make contact
- When you do start emailing people who interest
you, do not go overboard with too many details.
Stick to brief facts and communicate such that you
can pave the way for a progressive mail exchange.
Always state your email-id and mobile contact.
- Take some time at least once a week, to respond
to the people who have expressed interest. Give
them a reply according to your interest in the people
who have contacted you and even if they are not
the ideal ones -a courtesy thank you note back would
suffice politely and gives confidence to others
that the system works and it is for your own benefit.
- When you do start chatting with someone who has
caught your interest try and maintain a balance
in communicating, so that the conversation does
not take self-centered proportions. Spend time understanding
the other person's lifestyle, habits, hobbies and
share the same about you.
- After you start relating to each other's wavelength
over the chat, try and initiate a meeting. Meeting
in person is crucial for progress in relationship
whether it was through online communication or some
introduction you received offline. When you meet
you can break ice better and dispel any illusions
you may have created or perhaps be surprised even
if you had been skeptical!
- As you become closer and it seems like he or she
could be the one, you need to discuss important
issues regarding your careers, finances, children
etc. Sometimes people take such things for granted
and tend to be rudely surprised when a common thread
appears missing in these areas. So it is important
to get down to talking about this and see where
you stand in relation to each other once you feel
you are close enough to open up.