Marriage Matters

How you communicate is very important with regards to your online interactions and it starts with several basics.

First, those of you are reading this -have you logged on to MILMATCHMAKER.COM or
WWW.PERFECT-PARTNER.COM and registered your profile? If you have not done so, then this article may not be so relevant to you. The Perfect-Partner.com P.I.M.S service is an internal messaging system integrated with e-matching technology so after your profile is registered online, you get the capability to send and receive electronic confidential messages to your email-id as well as potential e-matches all at your fingertips wherever you are!

So now that you have registered online and are seriously looking to net your partner, here are some tips on getting the most out of choosing your partner online:

• When you register your profile, it is very important that you fill in the column that asks for a brief description of yourself. Give a brief but interesting sketch that steers clear off mundane details. Bring life to your words and describe yourself in a way that throws insights into your personality.
  
  
• Insert your photo to give that visual impression. These days it is very common practice online and believe it or not, the first thing potential lookers will do is browse photos! So do not be shy and improve your responses.
  
  
• Try and then search profiles and initiate that first contact rather than waiting and hoping someone will stop by now you are online and the partner will fall in your lap! It does not work that way. If you are serious enough to register your profile then also take the initiative to make contact
  
  
• When you do start emailing people who interest you, do not go overboard with too many details. Stick to brief facts and communicate such that you can pave the way for a progressive mail exchange. Always state your email-id and mobile contact.
  
  
• Take some time at least once a week, to respond to the people who have expressed interest. Give them a reply according to your interest in the people who have contacted you and even if they are not the ideal ones -a courtesy thank you note back would suffice politely and gives confidence to others that the system works and it is for your own benefit.
  
  
• When you do start chatting with someone who has caught your interest try and maintain a balance in communicating, so that the conversation does not take self-centered proportions. Spend time understanding the other person's lifestyle, habits, hobbies and share the same about you.
  
  
• After you start relating to each other's wavelength over the chat, try and initiate a meeting. Meeting in person is crucial for progress in relationship whether it was through online communication or some introduction you received offline. When you meet you can break ice better and dispel any illusions you may have created or perhaps be surprised even if you had been skeptical!
  
  
• As you become closer and it seems like he or she could be the one, you need to discuss important issues regarding your careers, finances, children etc. Sometimes people take such things for granted and tend to be rudely surprised when a common thread appears missing in these areas. So it is important to get down to talking about this and see where you stand in relation to each other once you feel you are close enough to open up.